Mother, author, poet, educator, escapee. Obsessed with finding ease in relationships, health, wellbeing and the juggling of life.

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Hello Medium Siblings!

I hail from the United Kingdom as you’ll probably note from my weird spellings and quaint little phrases.

I write under a pseudonym because I run a few businesses and have a madcap family and psycho ex-husband, who while they are all wonderful inspiration for my tales and articles, would never be grateful to know that I let out all my frustrations and stress so freely and with such bare-knuckle honesty.

My goal on Medium is to help fellow…


Abuse by Proxy, Anticipation, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Apology

A naked girl with long dark hair is sat in darkness. ‘Love shouldn’t hurt’ is written on her back.
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Hello! There’s so much to learn about narcissism that, for the moment you finally work out you’ve been a target, victimised and gaslit all this time, I’ve put together a quick reference glossary over a series of articles under each letter of the alphabet to help you understand and begin recovery.

Please note this is a glossary of terms with the briefest of explanations as a very rudimentary introduction to aspects of narcissism for victims who may be trying to understand how they may have been gaslit. They are general and…


By J’Accuse! left-behind parent in paternal child abduction.

FAMILY COURT ON TRIAL: Part 10

Domestic Violence in the Family Court

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Family court judges and evaluators facilitate the perpetuation of child and spousal abuse while gaslighting the fact of abuse and their role in it.

If an abusive parent forces a safe parent to fight for the legal right to continue to raise the children, then the victims have not escaped domestic violence.

The vindictive ex-spouse (serial plaintiff) has transferred maltreatment of the family into family court, where flying monkey judges and evaluators oblige the perpetrator! — but deny their complicity.

Serving the plaintiff as proxies, judges and evaluators themselves gaslight victims’…


One Day in the Life of Ivanka the Bitch, 17, A Novel

Chapter 17: Polish Sausage

10.31 am —Gingerbread Orphan I am

Join businesswoman Ivanka Tupolevka on the day she’s about to lose everything in the apocalyptic gulag of her divorce, with Brexshit to deal with, no HRT and surrounded by ‘fuckers’, will she ever escape the psycho ex and save her daughter?

At the hospital with Artur…

A train is rushing by like Ivanka’s life…
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It’s raining, in fact it’s pouring. Mr Asda will be sooo pleased we have something to discuss.

What’s Artur doing now in the boot? Faff, faff, faff. I’m getting soaked through. I swear he does this…


One Day in the Life of Ivanka the Bitch, 16, A Novel

Chapter 16: Trouser Dives and the Meaning of Life

10.25 am — In Divorce, There’s no Justice or Winners, Just Survivors

Join businesswoman Ivanka Tupolevka on the day she’s about to lose everything in the apocalyptic gulag of her divorce, with Brexshit to deal with, no HRT and surrounded by ‘fuckers’, will she ever escape the psycho ex and save her daughter?

Taking Artur to hospital, still sobering up…

A train is rushing by like Ivanka’s life…
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‘Oh look at that, no parking spaces. You get out, I’ll lurk.’

Oh thank God. Now I don’t have to go in.

‘But I could be an hour.’


One Day in the Life of Ivanka the Bitch, 15, A Novel

Chapter 15: Evil Twins

9.59 am — Fear and Loathing in South Wales

Join businesswoman Ivanka Tupolevka on the day she’s about to lose everything in the apocalyptic gulag of her divorce, with Brexshit to deal with, no HRT and surrounded by ‘fuckers’, will she ever escape the psycho ex and save her daughter?

Taking Artur to hospital, still sobering up…

A train is rushing by like Ivanka’s life…
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It never fails to astound me the number of people that will keep reassuring you in the most knowledgeable tones that everything is going to ok when they haven’t got a…


One Day in the Life of Ivanka the Bitch, 13, A Novel

Chapter 13: British Gas Can Sod Off!

9.44 am — Little Wins…

Join businesswoman Ivanka Tupolevka on the day she’s about to lose everything in the apocalyptic gulag of her divorce, with Brexshit to deal with, no HRT and surrounded by ‘fuckers’, will she ever escape the psycho ex and save her daughter?

Finally at work…

A train is rushing by like Ivanka’s life…
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Oh, thank God it’s cooler upstairs. Maybe they’re actually listening to me and leaving the heating off. Yes! The radiator is cool to the touch. …


One Day in the Life of Ivanka the Bitch, 14, A Novel

9.47 am — Drowning in Gentle Ripples

Join businesswoman Ivanka Tupolevka on the day she’s about to lose everything in the apocalyptic gulag of her divorce, with Brexshit to deal with, no HRT and surrounded by ‘fuckers’, will she ever escape the psycho ex and save her daughter?

Finally at work… but it’s no escape…

A train is rushing by like Ivanka’s life…
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My office, my version of being “able to run a business from anywhere in the world” is the glamorous boot of my car. Look at those curling papers grinning up at me from their Ikea bag. My penance, my bouquet of gypsy filia I’m doomed to carry around forever, it just keeps…


One Day in the Life of Ivanka the Bitch, 11, A Novel

Chapter 11: Swastikagate

9.36 am — Round the bend.

Join businesswoman Ivanka Tupolevka on the day she’s about to lose everything in the apocalyptic gulag of her divorce, with Brexshit to deal with, no HRT and surrounded by ‘fuckers’, will she ever escape the psycho ex and save her daughter?

Sobering up on the way to work…

A train is rushing by like Ivanka’s life…
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If I’m paying for this ride I’d at least like to enjoy a decent nap but fuck that sun man! Glaring at me from every angle he turns! You’d think they’d have found a…


One Day in the Life of Ivanka the Bitch, 10, A Novel

Chapter 10: Aching Like Buggery

8.44 am — Sheeeee’s flying out the doo…ooo..ooo..wah oh oh oh, ooo…!

Join businesswoman Ivanka Tupolevka on the day she’s about to lose everything in the apocalyptic gulag of her divorce, with Brexshit to deal with, no HRT and surrounded by ‘fuckers’, will she ever escape the psycho ex and save her daughter?

Still networking with the ladies… but a bit the worse for a few swiped bucks fizzes, smuggled brandies and bartered whiskies…

A train is rushing by like Ivanka’s life…
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I was born to make an impact and this is probably a great time…

Alexis Behrend

Mother, author, poet, educator, escapee. Obsessed with finding ease in relationships, health, wellbeing and the juggling of life. alexisbehrend.com

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